Is it ever appropriate to perform on someone else’s stage? By which I mean, are there occasions when I should just play the game (Eric Berne), accept the projection (Freud, Jung etc etc), be incongruent (Carl Rogers)?
Those of us with friends and family are faced with this dilemma often. Corvus is of course adept at spotting when he is being dragged on someone else’s stage, and refuses to read the script that has been prepared for him. Once awake, reading from a script becomes uncomfortable. However refusing to read from a script will destabilise a relationship, and unless an agreement has been made that is some version of “I want to know” it seems disrespectful to the friend or family member who is just not ready or willing for the scripts to be dropped.
It does become more of a chore to spend time with anyone who is not ready to work on putting their script down. Corvus reminds us that it is our obligation to show compassion for their situation: that is much easier in their absence as the body/brain doesn’t have the Self’s patience.