As we progress on the path to the final stage of enlightenment, it becomes clearer how those around us are immersed in the illusions and dramas created by their personalities, endlessly complicating their lives and relationships.
The conditioned response to this is to be polite and considerate to all, excepting those in your own family. We can feel entitled and obligated to try and control the lives of those in our own family, believing sincerely and truly that it is for their own good.
A considered viewpoint would include the question “What right and responsibility do I have to interfere in my family’s lives? ”
The answer is not clear-cut. We are irradiating all people who are around us, and, by example, promoting the spiritual path as a way to live a satisfying and meaningful life. We are told that we must explain our actions and motivations to our baffled families with patience and love. So we ARE having a positive effect.
However, more direct intervention is fraught with difficulty and misunderstanding. If you want to stay on good terms with your family and see your grandchildren growing up, tread lightly and leave it to someone else.
Until they ask.